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Immigration Forum / USA Marriage Base / March 2005Bringing My Wife's Mother
My Colombian wife was just granted citizenship. I understand that she can now bring her mother here to live, if someone signs an affadavit of support. Her mother has virtually no assets. Are there any alternatives to her living here permanently? Is it possible for her to come on a tourist visa, or other type of visa? According to my wife, she is eligible to live here, but not to visit. That doesn't make a lot of sense to me. I am not willing to commit to supporting her, at least for the long term. If she came for a short, closed-end visit, I might obligate myself. Any advice on what my options are would be appreciated. > My Colombian wife was just granted citizenship. I understand that she > can [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > Any advice on what my options are would be appreciated. She has a point, whether it applies in your case is another matter. She would need to get a visitors visa and part of that process would be that she would need to show ties requiring her return, job, property, other commitments. Reading behind the lines that may be tricky, and Columbia I am guessing is not the easiest location to get a visa from. But she would not be ineligible from trying. If she comes here full time, what are you going to do about Medical cover? > She has a point, whether it applies in your case is another matter. > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > If she comes here full time, what are you going to do about > Medical cover? But you only get one try, so make sure you don't muck it up. Once you've got a refusal it becomes 10 times harder to try it again. Don't put an app in till you're 110% sure it's correct. > If she comes here full time, what are you going to do about > Medical cover? Personally, I am against her coming here to live, so I am hoping that the health insurance isssue will kill the deal. I doubt that at age 55, she can even get coverage. But I have no problem with her wanting to come and visit her grandkids from time to time. > > If she comes here full time, what are you going to do about > > Medical cover? [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > visit > her grandkids from time to time. If she comes over she is most likely to live with you and your wife since she doesn't know anyone anybody else, If you don't want her to live permanently in the US.. you should have a talk with your wife.. Good Luck! > > If she comes here full time, what are you going to do about > > Medical cover? [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > visit > her grandkids from time to time. Homeland Security does not check for health insurance so you can kiss that excuse good-bye. You clearly do not want your mother-in-law here. You are the USC, this is still a free country, the choice is yours.. but consider what I am about to say carefully - as I have first hand experience with having to take care of elderly parents. They will interfere -They do get in the way -and you will NEVER LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE. Once they get older you cannot leave the house because they do not want to be left alone. My husband and I got married in 1993 (he was 48 and I was 35). We both had elderly parents therefore we decided to put our lives on hold while we took care of our parents - we married knowing we would live apart for what we thought would only be a short time… That was 12 years ago – His dad was 87 and his mom 86 and my dad was 55 when we married. 10 years ago his dad passed away, Feb 2004 his mom passed away at the age of NINETY-EIGHT. My dad is now fully disabled (confined to a bed) he is 67. Yes there are many days I want to unplug him.. but I keep reminding myself that I do it for love. Social Security does not help my father (very much he gets a little over $800 a month.. his medicines alone are $940 per month. I pay his doctors, his hospital, his day nurse that comes in 3X a week so I can get time for myself. I am a very lucky girl to have a husband that is glad to help me when he arrives from England. Knowing full well that my dad does not have a penny to his name and will not have anything to leave me in the form of death insurance when he passes. Moral of story.. DO IT FOR LOVE if you do it at all. Do it because you want to and not because you have to. Take care > My Colombian wife was just granted citizenship. I understand that she > can [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > Any advice on what my options are would be appreciated. Even if your wife wanted to bring her mother here permanently, as in applying for her mother's permanent residency, isn't there a huge long wait for that kind of thing anyway? Since it will probably be hard for her to get a visitor visa, and the PR process could take years (from what I understand), your MIL won't be coming over very soon anyway. Maybe someone can chime in who knows how long the PR process is for the parent of a naturalized citizen? Best Wishes, Rene > Even if your wife wanted to bring her mother here permanently, as in > applying for her mother's permanent residency, isn't there a huge [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > Best Wishes, > Rene There's no wait beyond the paperwork one. Same as bringing your spouse or fiancee. > There's no wait beyond the paperwork one. Same as bringing your spouse > or fiancee. Oh, ok. For some reason I thought the wait was longer for a parent. Maybe I was thinking of the long wait for a sibling. :) Thanks, Rene > Oh, ok. For some reason I thought the wait was longer for a parent. > Maybe I was thinking of the long wait for a sibling. :) > > Thanks, > Rene Yep --sibling's the decade + one. > Oh, ok. For some reason I thought the wait was longer for a parent. > Maybe I was thinking of the long wait for a sibling. :) > > Thanks, > Rene Parents of a US Citizen falls under the immediate relative category. No wait. For the OP, let your wife sign the Affidavit of Support and be the one to financially sponsor her mother, rather than yourself.  SignatureI'm not an attorney. This disclaimer is valid in NYS! > For the OP, let your wife sign the Affidavit of Support and be the one > to financially sponsor her mother, rather than yourself. She does not have adequate income to do so. >>For the OP, let your wife sign the Affidavit of Support and be the one >>to financially sponsor her mother, rather than yourself. > > She does not have adequate income to do so. Moreover, in a community property state, the marital assets might well be on the hook anyway. SignatureAbove intended as general commentary, not specific legal advice. Your mileage may vary. =============================================================== Jonathan McNeil Wong Voice: 510-451-0544 Donahue Gallagher Woods LLP Facsimile: 510-832-1486 P.O. Box 12979 URL: http://www.donahue.com Oakland, CA 94604-2979 E-mail: jonathan@donahue.com =============================================================== > My Colombian wife was just granted citizenship. I understand that she > can [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > Any advice on what my options are would be appreciated. As you are not related directly to her, your wife would be her mother's sponsor while you would be her joint sponsor. You are not obligated to provide financial support although your wife will probably have you sleeping on the couch for a while if you actually say that to her! Still, it's your choice not to financially support her mother. You are also not obligated to provide health care coverage for her. Personally, I don't envy your situation or the choices you need to make! I've heard that there are a number of monasteries who are looking for a few good men! :) Ian > I've heard that there are a number of monasteries who are looking for a > few good men! :) Thanks, mate..... |
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